Discuss Before Having a Baby!
Nowadays, you have to take care of many aspects before you can come to a decision to raise a family. There used to be a time when people got married at a very young age and used to have multiple issues. The roles of both the husband and wife were also stereotyped and typecast. The husbands generally used to be the sole breadwinners for the family staying out for the better part of the day for the sake of their livelihood while the wives were responsible for keeping the house in order.
However, the dynamics of starting or raising a family have undergone a sea change. Nowadays, both the spouses have to work to make ends meet and the husband usually lends a helping hand in the household chores. Families with only one child are becoming the norm. In case you’re planning to make the jump from two to three, you should keep the following aspects in mind.
Problems in Conceiving
You could get married in an elegant and impressive way because planning the entire event right from the beginning to the end was something you could control. But conceiving or getting pregnant in a perfect manner is nature’s handiwork. Both of you might be ready to have a baby but you could be facing problems with conceiving and your partner could be having sexual problems.
You two should sit down and discuss the options you have for becoming parents. Should you go for fertility treatment or should you settle for adoption? Will the IVF process or surrogacy be more suitable? You should consider all the alternatives very carefully before you can make a final decision.
The Prenatal Check Ups
These days it is common for all would be parents to go for numerous prenatal examinations as advised by their gynecologists and obstetrician. All prospective parents want to know well in advance whether their babies will be normal in all respects or will be born with congenital or genetic abnormalities. There are several medical procedures that’ll help you to find out the same.
In case you come to know that you’ll give birth to a child who’ll become autistic or dyslexic when he or she grows up, will you terminate the pregnancy? What if you cannot conceive again if you decide to go for abortion? These are very sensitive subject matters that both of you should mull over.
Where to Give Birth?
Would you prefer to give birth in the cool confines of your home or would you feel more comfortable delivering your baby in a midwifery clinic or maternity home? For this you’d have to consider the pros and cons associated with both the options. The costs associated with giving birth in your home would of course be much lower but in case of any complications, you’ll need to be rushed to a hospital which will ultimately add to the costs. Also consider the risks of giving birth in the confines of your home. In a nursing home you’ll get full assisted care and in case of any problem, immediate medical assistance also you will get. But the downside will be that you’ll have to pay through your nose.
There are many other issues you’ll need to review and reconsider like the number of issues you’d have; your parental duties post birth; taking care of yourself during the trimesters; your gender fixation (boy or girl?); childcare; budgeting and so on. Taking preparations in advance as far as the birth of your issue is concerned will save you a lot of hassles in the near or far future.